How Much Do You Trust Yourself

How Much Do You Trust Yourself

How Much Do You Trust Yourself? by Cynthia Wall Please visit her website at

If you were frequently shamed, betrayed, or suffered significant loss as a child, you may have difficulty knowing when to trust your own feelings. This often causes simple misunderstandings to flood you with self-doubt. Changing old beliefs that undermine your self-confidence is a necessary step toward developing more self-trust.

Take the following quiz to find out how you balance self-doubt and self-trust. Give yourself a score of 0 to 5 for each statement. 0 means it doesn’t apply at all, and 5 reflects a thought or feeling that affects you often enough to be troublesome.

____ I often sacrifice my own needs for others.

____ I feel ashamed when I have strong reactions like anger, fear, and depression.

____ I worry there is something wrong with me, even if I don’t know what it is.

____ I am not as capable or “good” as others think I am.

____ I play down my mistakes, fearing others will think less of me.

____ I am out of control about food, spending, drugs, or alcohol, and too ashamed to seek help.

____ I often think I’m being selfish when I resent that others are not contributing what I think is their fair share of work or money.

____ I believe that others are more open and honest about what they think and feel.

____ I want to do something big, like write a book, go back to school, or relocate, but can’t speak of it or explore how to proceed.

____ I am afraid of failing this quiz.

Scoring: This quiz points to aspects of self-confidence you may want to strengthen or change in some way. It is not another means to fail! Wait a month and take it again. You will be surprised how much just taking this quiz can boost your self-trust. Here are what the numbers mean:

31-50 Distrust of yourself is destroying your self-confidence.
20-30 Indicates a level of honest self-doubt. More confidence would be nice.
0-19 You are independent and confident, but do you sometimes feel lonely?


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